My philosophical ramblings: Humanity flourishes when it has no limitations.

1. I will express myself spontaneously, will not limit myself.
Its about time people the world over return to being human again and to liking the human state. Returning to being human would mean returning to being spontaneous, loving and having concern for humanity. A loving individual is spontaneous and it will be marvellous if people were to return to their initial spontaneity, the spontaneity of a kid who says what he/she feels, thinks and can easily express his/her feelings or thoughts without holding back as well as be able to empathise and adjust to what other people are thinking or feeling. Getting back to being concerned about other people and spontaneously reaching out to them with a smile, a touch, a word, an ear or simply a look that speaks volumes. Adults now have so many self-imposed or society-imposed limitations that hinder them from being spontaneous and expressing their humanity.
Yes society is the one which limits our spontaneity, limits our show of love or any show of feeling and limits our concern for others. Society says, "A lady does not cry in public." Well I cry whenever I feel like crying and I always find it soothing. I always cry when movies touch my heart and I remember the last time I went to a movie, I went alone and set next to a couple. When a touching scene was being viewed tears started to stream down my cheeks. The woman who was sitting next to me poked her husband and said, " Look honey, that lady is crying." And I quietly thought, "Let me stop limiting myself by just letting tears fall down quietly and actually cry out loud like I want to and give this couple something to really go home and tell their friends about." So I took out my handkerchief and really started to wail and it felt good because I spontaneously expressed what I felt without regard of the limits imposed on me by society. Then there was the time I went to a formal ladies' only cheese and wine party and the hostess was at the door meeting every guest with, "Oh, So & So, how nice of you to come," no welcome handshake, no welcome hug, and that was way back before cholera happened in our nation and made us hesitate making contact with each other. As I stood in line waiting for my turn to get to the door, I wondered what had happened to making human contact through handshaking or hugging. So when I got to the door and she said, "Oh, Eusebia, how nice of you to come," I smiled at her and hugged her and she being the kind of lady that believes that being a lady means not publicly showing affection she was taken aback. I on the other hand felt good because I think a hug is a very good way of expressing our humanity. What's happening to humans, why are they suppressing that spontaneous loving way of expressing humanity. If you want to see how alienated from each other human beings have become, watch when the door of an elevator opens. Everyone is standing like zombies, facing the elevator door and no one dares to make contact with anyone, no conversation, no smiling at each other. Everyone in the elevator stands at attention, the door opens and one gets out and another one gets in and turns round immediately and faces the door. Whoever told people that they have to face the door when they enter an elevator. So this other day I was in one of my daring moods and I walked into an uptown elevator and stood there with my back to the elevator door and looked at everybody and said, "Hi everybody! Wouldn't it be marvelous if the elevator got stuck and we could get to talking to each other." No one said a word in response, they all looked at me with eyes that said, "This woman wants to know people in an elevator, she must be crazy." I on the other hand felt good, I had tried to make human contact however without success, I had tried to show the people in the elevator that I was concerned about them as my fellow humans. Whatever happened to the human need to connect & relate to other human beings, why did we allow it to be buried in sophistication, indifference, self-love, pride, society's limitations and self-imposed limitations due to fear of rejection. Let us start expressing our humanity spontaneously without limits.

2. I free myself from being limited by words used as labels
We created words so that we could be able to communicate. Words are supposed to make us understand each other but sometimes they become boxes and bags in which we become trapped, they limit us. Words are the freezing of reality. We teach children the meaning of words before they are able to truly understand them and rebel. And in words we teach fear, we teach prejudice, we teach love, we teach respect, we teach all kinds of things. Words label people and in so doing prevents us from finding for ourselves what that person is about. All you have to do is hear a label and you think you know everything about the person being labelled. You then don't bother to find out what the labelled person thinks, what the labelled person feels, what the labelled person understands and what his/her hopes and fears are. Such is the limiting effect of words used to label people.
I believe in not allowing words to rule me, I rule words by finding out for myself if the word being used to label the person fits his/her behaviour, demeanour or character, I free myself from basing my perception of a person from the label he/she is given. Words can have a distancing phenomena and I refuse to be limited by labels from getting to know another human being better and from reaching out to another human being and expressing humanity. I believe that every human being has this beautiful uniqueness from which I can learn a thing or two and I will not learn anything from that person by labelling him/her, by calling him/her names. If you want to know about someone, you've got to get into his/her heart and mind, only then will you understand that person and the minute you label someone you create a wall that makes it impossible to get into that someone's heart and mind. You all know labels that if spoken immediately make you expect a certain type of behaviour from that labelled person, for example, "She is a Jew" , "She is Black" , "She is a Moslem" , "She is fat" , "She is a single mother". Why can't they just say she is Mary Mollen, I mean simply say her name without labelling her because she is just a person who is obviously much more than the label she is being given. Let us stop using labelling words, they hinder people from expressing their humanity.